Geetha Durairajan Evaluating others and ourselves As human beings, we engage in many kinds of reflections. Some of these are evaluations which are reflective and others reflect our values. Every time we look at another person, we evaluate them. This ‘judgment’ if it can be called that, is often unconscious and automatic. Without even realizing it, we judge the appearance, clothes, and even language (particularly accent) and actions of people. The nature of this ‘judgment’ or evaluation is a reflection of our values and ourselves. Those of you who are regular readers of my column Touchstone may recall my first article in that series titled ‘Coloured judgments’ (Teacher Plus, February 2012). I had assumed that a dark skinned woman in a crushed sari could not be an interpreter. This judgment was a reflection of my own values and showed me up in a bad light, not her. We look at other people and their actions and evaluate the actions to find them wanting, or think that they are fantastic. This evaluation is a reflection of our assumptions and our goals. Our views are reflected through our evaluation of other people. If I feel that it is not right for women to sing and dance in public or wear modern ‘revealing’ clothes, then I judge that woman as dressed ‘scantily’ or as wearing revealing clothes. If I am comfortable with shorts, mini-skirts, or short tops, I will probably ‘judge’ that woman as modern! This is true of all people, and all situations. It is not only other people’s images that we judge. Very often we judge our own images or rather reflections as well. All of us look at ourselves in a mirror every morning when we get dressed. We may spend a few minutes but often that time spent doesn’t even register in our consciousness. When we get dressed for an important occasion, (an interview, a presentation, a meeting) however, all of us spend a little more time and take a bit more care with our appearance. Once dressed, we take a minute or two to look at our image in the mirror and do a mental check: “Am I okay, do I look neat enough, will I impress…?” When we do this, we are, in a sense, evaluating ourselves and passing judgment. But this evaluation of our own reflection is not from our viewpoint but from the perspective of the people whom we are going to meet/make a presentation for or be interviewed by.